In this session, I hope to emphasize that diversity of dating is the only way to gain perspective on what you want. Although we all wish to jump off the dating treadmill and walk hand-in-hand with that one special person, I insist that you date three people at a time until you are monogamous with one (this is direct from Patti Stanger, who knows what she's talking about).
Let's use anecdotal evidence.
You are dating someone. Things are going well. Then all of a sudden, you start questioning the mechanics/process/picky traits/etc. of said person. What would actually help this situation? What always helps us, boys and girls. Comparison. As human beings, we are not so enlightened as to know what is best for us (this is why we have people called friends who call us on our bull****). We are buoyed by the winds of chemistry, hormones, and millions of years of evolution. We need simplified models. Exhibit A or Exhibit B. Hot or Not. Iphone or Blackberry. Pizza or Pad Thai. Okay, you get my point.
There is a caveat: we must curb our range of choices. Date too many exhibits, and our simple minds will become flustered and overwhelmed by choices. That is why three is the perfect number. Three allows both variety and a chance to actually have a conversation with the exhibit. Three also allows for elimination without annihilation.
A variation of diversifying your portfolio is amping up your social life. DO NOT, and I am serious about this, DO NOT begin cancelling activities with friends, co-workers, and colleagues. Staying actively busy is one of the five pillars to an overall successful dating life. It allows you to continue to meet new people and achieve a sense of independence and liberation about your identity. When you fall off the face of the planet, you must humbly scratch your way back to your friends when your dopamine induced relationship hits the ****fan.
Remember, diversifying your portfolio spreads the risk among various companies. And after time, you can (with some clarity) judge which stocks have a positive, upward trend. And that's when you can invest, baby, invest.
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